quiet fridays newsletter #5: Understanding Executive Presence.
Let’s talk about something introverts avoid: executive presence.
The business world loves to glorify this elusive quality. It’s often described as “owning the room” or having “gravitas.” But let’s be honest—does anyone really know what that means? For introverted CEOs and founders, this obsession with presence can feel like an extroverted popularity contest.
Here’s a alternate thought:
Executive presence isn’t about being larger than life. It’s about being real, consistent, and unshakable in your values.
Confucius, hits the nail on the head:
”The superior man is modest in his speech but exceeds in his actions.”
Insight:
Stop Performing. Start Leading.
The demand for “executive presence” can feel like pressure to perform—be louder, take up more space, project confidence at all costs. But great leadership isn’t a performance. It’s a commitment to clarity, integrity, and action.
Adam Grant makes it clear:
“Don’t confuse speaking often with saying something meaningful.”
Inspiration:
Charisma Isn’t Magic—It’s Strategy
Charisma is less about being naturally magnetic and more about connecting authentically. Olivia Fox Cabane explains that the three pillars of charisma—presence, power, and warmth—are all skills you can build, even as an introvert.
🎙 Watch This: Olivia Fox Cabane’s TEDx Talk, Charisma Myth: Mastering the Art of Personal Magnetism
Reflections:
Flip the Script on Executive Presence
Think back to a time when you felt unsure or overlooked. Ask yourself:
What story was I telling myself?
What would I do differently if I felt aligned with my values?
How can I show up that way next time?
Quickly jot down your answers. This clarity can build your confidence for future moments.
True leadership isn’t just about staying strong in your values; it’s about understanding how your presence impacts those around you. It's the quiet awareness of how your actions, words, and energy create space for others to thrive.
Here’s to quiet Fridays and leading with unapologetic authenticity.
Sadaf Javed
Executive Coach & Founder
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